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Real journeys

How she did it.

Twenty real women who broke into tech, came back after years away, moved up, got through a layoff, or went out on their own. Not gurus. Not overnight successes. What they actually did, what was hard, and how long it took, including two stories that are still in progress.

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Journey
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Breaking into techUnder 4 months

From teaching to software engineering in four months

A former educator

Starting point. Eight years in education, including classroom teaching and a nonprofit, with no computer science background.

Career changerNo CS degreeBuilt a runway first
How she did it

What she did

  1. Tested the waters with online tutorials, textbooks, and weekend classes while still employed.
  2. Talked with engineer friends and coding school graduates, then made a financial plan.
  3. Quit and enrolled in a three-month, full-time bootcamp, paying about $20,000 upfront with private loans and savings.
  4. Built a portfolio and rewrote her résumé before applying.

What was hard

Twelve-hour days, six days a week, left no room for side income. Federal student loans weren't available, and rethinking her professional identity was harder than the coursework.

Where she landed

A software engineering offer about three weeks after graduating.

The takeaway

Plan your finances for the worst case. The emotional side of a career change is often harder than the practical side.

Read her story in full: The Muse

Go deeper: The Next Role PlaybookFuture-proofing your career in the age of AI

Breaking into techAbout 12 months

From public health to software engineer in her late 30s, with a newborn

A public health analyst in her late 30s

Starting point. A research associate and program analyst in public health, with degrees in biology and nonprofit management.

Career changerCaregivingOver 35
How she did it

What she did

  1. Started a six-month, 35-hour-a-week online bootcamp when her daughter was four months old.
  2. Kept building small projects and practicing algorithms after graduating.
  3. Leaned on a bootcamp mentor who believed in her and paired with her beyond what was required.

What was hard

Sleep deprivation and constant interruptions during the bootcamp. The job search was the hardest part: rejections after coding tests and onsite interviews shook her confidence.

Where she landed

Her first full-time software engineering role about six months after the bootcamp. She later became a senior software engineer at PayPal, according to her profile.

The takeaway

A mentor who believes in you can carry you through the hardest stretch. Focus on fundamentals rather than chasing every new framework.

Read her story in full: DEV Community

Go deeper: The Next Role PlaybookFuture-proofing your career in the age of AI

Breaking into techAbout 12 months

From events manager to software engineer while working full time

An events manager in her twenties

Starting point. An events manager with a hospitality degree, around 26, with almost no coding experience.

Career changerNo CS degree
How she did it

What she did

  1. Researched bootcamps and attended a demo day before committing.
  2. Taught herself the basics on weekends for two months to meet the entry bar.
  3. Completed a pre-course while still working, then a 12-week bootcamp.
  4. Job hunted daily after graduating, sending about ten tailored applications instead of dozens of generic ones.

What was hard

She underestimated the entry requirements at first, and studying intensively alongside a full-time job was exhausting.

Where she landed

A job offer about a month after graduating, into a software engineering pathway role at a large company.

The takeaway

Treat the job search like a job, and send fewer, tailored applications.

Read her story in full: SheCanCode

Go deeper: The Next Role PlaybookFuture-proofing your career in the age of AI

Breaking into techPart-time study, then 4 months to a full role

From nursing to product design

A nurse of ten years

Starting point. About ten years in nursing. She wanted a more balanced life and more time with her son.

Career changerNo CS degreeCaregiving
How she did it

What she did

  1. Tried free short courses to test whether design suited her.
  2. Studied UX design online and part-time, then specialized in visual design.
  3. Built a portfolio and applied widely, facing many rejections.
  4. Landed a summer internship at Mercedes-Benz.io.

What was hard

Her own self-doubt, and worrying that changing careers might be a mistake.

Where she landed

A junior product designer role about four months after starting the internship, working remotely.

The takeaway

The people skills from your previous career are an asset, not a gap. Test a field cheaply before you commit.

Read her story in full: CareerFoundry

Go deeper: The Next Role PlaybookFuture-proofing your career in the age of AI

Coming backBootcamp, then 2 months to a job

Back to work after 20 years raising a family, as a software engineer

A mother returning after 20 years at home

Starting point. A sociology graduate who spent about 20 years raising her children with part-time jobs, and was told she lacked recent work experience.

Long career breakCaregivingCareer changerNo CS degree
How she did it

What she did

  1. Enrolled in an online university coding bootcamp, using a women-in-tech scholarship that covered over half the tuition.
  2. Learned JavaScript, databases, and Git through group projects.
  3. Used career services for her résumé, interviews, and LinkedIn profile.

What was hard

The intensity of the bootcamp, imposter syndrome, and discovering that résumés and personal branding had changed since she last worked.

Where she landed

An apprentice software engineer role at UCAS, then promotion to a junior role after earning the apprenticeship's top grade. She was also asked to help start a women-in-tech group.

The takeaway

An online format let her keep family first. Age and a long gap needn't close the door.

Read her story in full: edX (published by the program provider)

Go deeper: Coming back strong: Returning from leaveComing back after a career gap

Coming back3-year break, then a returnship

Back to software engineering after a three-year caregiving break

A software engineer returning after three years

Starting point. More than eight years as a software engineer at companies including JPMorgan Chase and American Express, before stepping away to care for her two young children.

Long career breakCaregiving
How she did it

What she did

  1. Took refresher courses in algorithms, Java, and web services.
  2. Read other returners' stories and attended webinars that gave her the confidence to apply.
  3. Joined a returnship at VMware, working on open-source cloud tooling in a language that was new to her.
  4. Followed a 30-60-90 day ramp-up plan with a technical mentor twice a week.

What was hard

Starting from scratch in a new technical domain while balancing childcare.

Where she landed

A full-time software engineering role at VMware after the returnship.

The takeaway

A returnship gives you a structured ramp back. Talking to people who returned before you makes it feel possible.

Read her story in full: Path Forward

Go deeper: Coming back strong: Returning from leaveComing back after a career gap

Coming back17-year break, then a returnship

Back to engineering after 17 years away

An engineer returning after 17 years

Starting point. An engineer who had been out of the workforce for about 17 years.

Long career break
How she did it

What she did

  1. Heard about a returnship program at Synopsys from a friend, which gave her the push to apply.
  2. Completed the pilot program while catching up on how much the technology had changed.

What was hard

Knowing how far the field had moved during her time away.

Where she landed

Hired as a software engineer after the pilot.

The takeaway

Even a very long gap can be bridged. Sometimes all it takes is one person telling you about the right door.

Read her story in full: Synopsys

Go deeper: Coming back strong: Returning from leaveComing back after a career gap

Moving upA career of steps, not a straight line

From a manager who blamed her to staff engineer

A staff engineer with a non-linear path

Starting point. She struggled in school, switched majors after failing physics, and found her way to computer engineering and then web development.

Non-linear pathLeading without authority
How she did it

What she did

  1. Was promoted to principal engineer at a multinational, but struggled to get cross-team cooperation, and her manager blamed her instead of helping.
  2. Nearly left development; took an architecture course and taught high school computer science instead.
  3. Joined a new company as a staff engineer and became the go-to person for technical questions.
  4. Built influence by teaching teammates, joining cross-team working groups, and taking communication and negotiation classes.

What was hard

Earning credibility without formal authority. Her first major staff project took nearly a year to resolve.

Where she landed

A staff engineer role where her influence comes from shared success.

The takeaway

Teach others and let them own the work: it makes your expertise visible. One bad manager is not a verdict on your ability.

Read her story in full: Girl Geek X (talk transcript)

Go deeper: The Raise and Promotion PlaybookFrom senior contributor to leaderYou're promoted! Now what?

Moving upSeveral promotions across companies

Security engineer to staff level, often as the only woman on the team

A cloud security engineer

Starting point. A security engineer who chose smaller companies early on to become well-rounded, then became a cloud security expert at Hulu.

Only woman in the roomLeading without authority
How she did it

What she did

  1. Led a company-wide secrets management project, coordinating 25 partner teams through full adoption.
  2. Built metrics so security could show its impact to senior leaders.
  3. Spoke at conferences, gave internal training, wrote documentation, and mentored four colleagues.
  4. Her manager and mentor encouraged her toward the staff path.

What was hard

Being remote and often the only woman on her team, traveling to headquarters regularly, and the weight of high-impact decisions.

Where she landed

Security architect, then staff cloud security engineer, then a staff engineering program manager role at Shopify.

The takeaway

Scope of impact defines staff-level work. Negotiate hard, and leave managers who aren't kind.

Read her story in full: StaffEng Security stories (tl;dr sec)

Go deeper: The Raise and Promotion PlaybookFrom senior contributor to leaderYou're promoted! Now what?

Moving up6 months to the raise

Her first negotiation: a no that became a yes

A first-time negotiator in her twenties

Starting point. A first-time negotiator in her twenties, moving to a new division in her company and wanting a raise for the new role.

Internal moveNegotiation
How she did it

What she did

  1. Researched salary ranges and rehearsed with a trusted friend.
  2. Opened with enthusiasm for the role, then named a number above her target.
  3. When the leader said the move was lateral and she was unproven, she agreed to a deal: hit the mark in six months and get the raise.

What was hard

Nerves, and the dip in confidence when the first answer was no.

Where she landed

The increase she asked for, six months later.

The takeaway

A no can mean not yet. Creative, win-win terms can turn it into a yes.

Read her story in full: Her coaching blog

Go deeper: The Raise and Promotion PlaybookFrom senior contributor to leaderYou're promoted! Now what?

Moving up7 weeks, after 3 years of wanting it

From support engineer to product manager in seven weeks

A support engineer at a large tech company

Starting point. A support engineer at Microsoft who had wanted to move into product management for about three years.

Internal moveCareer changer
How she did it

What she did

  1. Set herself a two-month deadline to make the switch.
  2. Completed product management coursework and prepared for each interview question type.
  3. Contacted hiring managers directly and treated networking calls as practice interviews.
  4. Tailored her résumé to show how support work built product skills, then negotiated the offer.

What was hard

Studying at 5 a.m. around a full schedule, framing her experience for behavioral interviews, and no mentor, so she mentored herself.

Where she landed

A product manager role at Microsoft, with an offer in seven weeks.

The takeaway

A deadline turns a someday goal into action.

Read her story in full: Medium

Go deeper: The Raise and Promotion PlaybookFrom senior contributor to leaderYou're promoted! Now what?

Moving upReflections after year one

Engineer to first-time engineering manager

A software engineer at an education tech company

Starting point. A software engineer who was offered the chance to manage her own team during a period of fast growth.

Internal moveFirst-time manager
How she did it

What she did

  1. Accepted, knowing she could return to engineering if it didn't fit.
  2. Asked for specific feedback and gave continuous feedback so reviews held no surprises.
  3. Set up regular meetings with partner teams and raised timeline risks early.
  4. Asked her team for ideas before offering her own, and delegated work as growth opportunities.

What was hard

Measuring success as a manager, letting go of being the technical expert, and admitting uncertainty.

Where she landed

A year into managing, with practices she now relies on.

The takeaway

Saying "I don't know" and inviting input leads to better solutions and a stronger team.

Read her story in full: Clever Engineering Blog

Go deeper: The Raise and Promotion PlaybookFrom senior contributor to leaderYou're promoted! Now what?

Navigating setbacksMonths of rejections, then days

Laid off, stuck in automated screens, then a video that broke through

A marketing manager in Madrid

Starting point. A marketing manager at a fintech company in Madrid, laid off in October.

Laid off
How she did it

What she did

  1. Applied the standard way for months and rarely got past automated screening.
  2. Made a short LinkedIn video showing her skills instead of describing them.
  3. When a London employer wanted her to relocate, she declined and they agreed to remote work.

What was hard

Dozens of automated rejections in a cooling job market.

Where she landed

Hundreds of employers reached out after the video spread, including a former coworker who asked to interview her within minutes.

The takeaway

Show your work, don't just describe it. And be clear about the terms you want.

Read her story in full: Fortune

Go deeper: Laid off? Your first two weeksPut on a PIP? Your first week

Navigating setbacksMore than two years and counting

Laid off from a big tech company, and still finding her way

A site reliability engineer

Starting point. A site reliability engineer whose entire team was laid off in November 2023.

Laid offStill in progress
How she did it

What she did

  1. Took time to reassess her goals, then searched for midlevel remote roles.
  2. Interviewed several times without an offer, then shifted toward smaller companies.
  3. After more than a year, paused the search, started a web development business, and resold antiques for income.

What was hard

Midlevel roles were scarce, interviews sometimes felt like trivia, and her savings ran down as the search stretched on.

Where she landed

Still in progress. She hopes to return to tech, focusing on smaller companies.

The takeaway

Build a bigger emergency fund than you think you need, and plan for a longer search. Smaller companies were more responsive.

Read her story in full: Business Insider, via Yahoo

Go deeper: Laid off? Your first two weeksPut on a PIP? Your first week

Going independentYears of side work, then the leap

Corporate to full-time freelancer, with two years of savings

A writer who built a freelance business on the side

Starting point. A full-time employee with a journalism background who freelanced on the side.

Built a runway firstSide hustle first
How she did it

What she did

  1. Saved all her freelance income, about $1,500 a month at its peak, until she had roughly two years of take-home pay saved.
  2. Kept saving for retirement with accounts suited to self-employment.
  3. When she went full time, told past clients, former colleagues, and her LinkedIn and email contacts.

What was hard

Her first three months earned less than her salary, income was inconsistent, and much of the work, like pitching, went unpaid.

Where she landed

About three and a half years later, most of her work came from existing clients and referrals.

The takeaway

Start on the side, build a big cushion, and tell everyone you know when you make the move.

Read her story in full: Northwestern Mutual

Go deeper: Build your freedom fundThe Courage Playbook

Going independentA few months of searching while employed

Signed her first clients before quitting, with no audience

A UK copywriter

Starting point. A full-time employee who couldn't openly advertise her freelance work without risking her job.

No audienceSide hustle first
How she did it

What she did

  1. Set up a website, a portfolio from her day-job work, and a professional email address first.
  2. Landed her first client by answering a request a creator posted on Instagram.
  3. Searched LinkedIn every day for freelance copywriter posts from the last 24 hours, which brought two more clients.
  4. Subscribed to newsletters that send freelance gigs.

What was hard

Finding clients while employed and unable to say so publicly.

Where she landed

About £800 from her first client and over £6,000 from the next two, then she handed in her notice.

The takeaway

Look professional before you look for clients, and make searching a small daily habit.

Read her story in full: Substack

Go deeper: Build your freedom fundThe Courage Playbook

Going independentEarly days of a new business

Corporate to career coach: how she found her first five clients

A corporate professional turned career coach

Starting point. A corporate professional who became a career coach after scrapping her first business attempt.

No audience
How she did it

What she did

  1. One client came from a flyer in a coffee shop she frequented.
  2. One came from a helpful comment she left on someone else's blog.
  3. One came from an email to her professional network of about 40 women.
  4. Two were former colleagues from her corporate job.

What was hard

Financial strain early on, and the fear of talking to potential clients.

Where she landed

Her first five clients, from simple, low-tech outreach.

The takeaway

Clients can't find you if you keep your business a secret. Tell people what you do.

Read her story in full: Her blog

Go deeper: Build your freedom fundThe Courage Playbook

Going independentThree years of building

From brand director at a global company to a company of one

A former brand director at a global company

Starting point. A brand director at Procter & Gamble who wanted more learning, more variety, and more time with her two children.

Caregiving
How she did it

What she did

  1. Started a consulting practice helping consumer brands sell more effectively to women.
  2. Joined a coaching program and learned from consultants who had done it before.
  3. Invested in content and video, then hired help and subcontracted partners.
  4. Set a protected weekly block for business development.

What was hard

Getting comfortable with discomfort after going from a company of about 100,000 people to one, and doing tasks she didn't enjoy.

Where she landed

A practice with partners, repeat clients, and fewer nights and weekends.

The takeaway

Delegate what drains you: hiring help buys back time for the work only you can do.

Read her story in full: Consulting Success podcast

Go deeper: Build your freedom fundThe Courage Playbook

Going independentAbout 28 months from first code to $80K a year

From big tech engineer and burnout to a profitable company of one

A software engineer turned founder

Starting point. A software engineer at Twitter who co-founded a startup, burned out, left, and freelanced.

No audience
How she did it

What she did

  1. Built a budgeting tool to solve her own problem with multiple currencies.
  2. Spent about two months on a first version and six more polishing it with beta users.
  3. Launched on Hacker News, which brought about 100 early users.
  4. Grew through user interviews, case studies, and search, and hired contractors for support and marketing.

What was hard

She never had a solid marketing plan and calls her early traction partly luck.

Where she landed

About 1,000 paying users and roughly $80,000 in annual recurring revenue, about 20 months after launch.

The takeaway

Solve a problem you have yourself, and own a niche.

Read her story in full: Indie Hackers AMA

Go deeper: Build your freedom fundThe Courage Playbook

Going independentJust beginning

Left a six-figure role at 39 with no plan B, and is figuring it out

A media and technology executive, 39

Starting point. Eighteen years in media, advertising, and technology, most recently in a senior role that wasn't a fit.

Built a runway firstOver 35Still in progress
How she did it

What she did

  1. After a personal loss made her rethink how she spent her time, she resigned without another job lined up.
  2. Relied on nearly two decades of disciplined saving and investing as a cushion.
  3. Began exploring freelance, consulting, and part-time work, and shared her journey publicly.

What was hard

Her identity had become tied to her title and salary, and some days she doubts her decision.

Where she landed

Still in progress. Her online community grew quickly after she shared her story.

The takeaway

A financial runway, ideally about six months of expenses, is what gives you choices.

Read her story in full: Newsweek

Go deeper: Build your freedom fundThe Courage Playbook